"There are old heads in the world who cannot help me by their example or advice to live worthily and satisfactorily to myself; but I believe that it is in my power to elevate myself this very hour above the common level of my life. "
Henry David Thorea
Sunday, January 9, 2011
Monday, August 10, 2009
No way, no how.
sorry about not posting any advice for a while despite posting normally on my other blog. I haven't been focusing as far advice and things go. Not saying there's too much going on my mind when there is because I usually can fit time in to do things like this, but there have been some major things that are keeping my mind distracted.
One such thing is a horse that I grew up with (so I had since birth) she was down for a bit over half a day. She's 32 so she is old but it's frightening to be getting that realization that she is old like that. I was out of town during the time it happened and my dad didn't tell me until a couple of days a ago for whatever reason he had, although the incident happened well over a month ago. He was able to get my horse, Swabby, back up to her feet and walking around so that's good but it's scary for me to know that my horse is getting so old that she is having trouble standing. I am thinking that if she is having that many problems and that much pain in her legs then I think it would be better to euthanize her because it's not right to leave her in pain but I will wait to see if she has another episode like she did to be sure enough to make a BIG decision like euthanasia.
This is my best friend and in a sense my sister because we have spent so much time together but animals do age different and when I was born she was retired from race horsing and was already at the age of 13 so she is old. Horses normally only live to be 19 years old. I am glad to have been able to grow, live, and spend the time with Swabby. I will continue to spend time with her until that time comes and when that day comes that she will either have to be euthanized or she is dying naturally (because there are signs that they are dying) then I will be at her side and tell her that "it's ok and to not be afraid and that I will miss her with all my heart but she has taught me to be strong and that I am glad to have been there with her and in somecases for her. I will tell her that it's ok for her to let go and that although my heart will be missing you, I will be strong and take each day as it comes and never gives up. That she shouldn't force herself to keep living on just for my sake" I know that is a reason why she has lived so long because we have a very close bond and it sounds silly and I don't know hwo to explain it but that's what I know in my heart to be true, it's as if she herself is telling me that it's that way. Well enough about that. let's talk about a happier tune before I break down into tears. heh heh hehe.
I do have advice for today based on something that happened recently, I don't really know how to put it in question for but I guess the question would be something like Where would be the best place to leave my kids (w/ a nanny/babysitter) if me and my significant other want to go on a little trip?
Well first off, I am raised where if you have kids...wou're in it for the long haul. yeah you can take small breaks away from them but you chose to have kids therefore chose to devote yourselves to them so I think it's selfish to go by yourselves. My parents took us EVERYWHERE with them when they took trips (unless dad was going on a business trip). I guess some families do that where the parents take a trip to get away from the kids but if you are someone like this and are new to the experience let me tell you some things that you might want to do based on my experience. Depending on the age of the child(ren) you probably want to get someone to watch them at their house so that everything is more accessible like baby formula, diapers, bottles but I disagree with the notion of having someone stay at your house with your kids because it's a bit harder on the kids if you are gone that long. If you are going to have your kids stay at someone's house you better know that person darn well. Kids are a bit more resiliant than people realize so taking them out of their environment, their home, while the parents are away isn't a bad thing to do because kids know the different environments they are at and have visited before and when a kid is in his home environment where the parents are absent for let's say 4 days, a child will know that you aren't there and will WAIT for you when you normally come home.
Let me give you an example of that (that is something that happened to me): One summer when I was 12 I did babysitting and one lady I babysat for had 3 kids, ages 8, 5, and an 18 month old. she was in the middle of a seperation with her husband so he wasn't there and she was a major partier she is one of those parents who loves their kids but doesn't really want the responsibility of them. I ended up staying there for a month (with constant contact of my mother) taking care of her kids while she partied, everytime I tried her phone it was too loud of a background to understand her and I know she came home at nights when people were asleep because there was a note and money left for food or items the kids needed. So for one month I took care of her kids but everynight the kids would ask where mommy is and the 18 month old would wait by the door and would say mama which signified to me that he was waiting for her. And everytime I would take them to my house for the day with all the appropriate things they needed (because I lived just down the street) they would seem to forget that mommy wasn't there and she doesn't return to this place.
So I think it is a good thing to leave your kid with your family or the person you really really know and trust if you are going to be gone for so long because if they are at someone elses house, although at first it will take some getting used to, they aren't counting the days so to speak. Kids remember things you don't want them to and to a kid, if they remember their mommy and daddy not being their for so long they will grow up thinking that mommy and daddy don't care about me. Always explain things to your kids even when they are at those ages that you think they don't understand. I myself grew up having a seperation anxiety because my dad always had to leave on business trips and was in the army for the first few years of my life. Even though mom was there it was still very hard. It's always good to create another safe place for your child for times when you are gone that way when you are back they know that they have another place to turn to. So that's just my thoughts and advice for this subject hopefully you found it useful. If you have some other options or ideas on this subject then please leave comments I would love to hear them.
One such thing is a horse that I grew up with (so I had since birth) she was down for a bit over half a day. She's 32 so she is old but it's frightening to be getting that realization that she is old like that. I was out of town during the time it happened and my dad didn't tell me until a couple of days a ago for whatever reason he had, although the incident happened well over a month ago. He was able to get my horse, Swabby, back up to her feet and walking around so that's good but it's scary for me to know that my horse is getting so old that she is having trouble standing. I am thinking that if she is having that many problems and that much pain in her legs then I think it would be better to euthanize her because it's not right to leave her in pain but I will wait to see if she has another episode like she did to be sure enough to make a BIG decision like euthanasia.
This is my best friend and in a sense my sister because we have spent so much time together but animals do age different and when I was born she was retired from race horsing and was already at the age of 13 so she is old. Horses normally only live to be 19 years old. I am glad to have been able to grow, live, and spend the time with Swabby. I will continue to spend time with her until that time comes and when that day comes that she will either have to be euthanized or she is dying naturally (because there are signs that they are dying) then I will be at her side and tell her that "it's ok and to not be afraid and that I will miss her with all my heart but she has taught me to be strong and that I am glad to have been there with her and in somecases for her. I will tell her that it's ok for her to let go and that although my heart will be missing you, I will be strong and take each day as it comes and never gives up. That she shouldn't force herself to keep living on just for my sake" I know that is a reason why she has lived so long because we have a very close bond and it sounds silly and I don't know hwo to explain it but that's what I know in my heart to be true, it's as if she herself is telling me that it's that way. Well enough about that. let's talk about a happier tune before I break down into tears. heh heh hehe.
I do have advice for today based on something that happened recently, I don't really know how to put it in question for but I guess the question would be something like Where would be the best place to leave my kids (w/ a nanny/babysitter) if me and my significant other want to go on a little trip?
Well first off, I am raised where if you have kids...wou're in it for the long haul. yeah you can take small breaks away from them but you chose to have kids therefore chose to devote yourselves to them so I think it's selfish to go by yourselves. My parents took us EVERYWHERE with them when they took trips (unless dad was going on a business trip). I guess some families do that where the parents take a trip to get away from the kids but if you are someone like this and are new to the experience let me tell you some things that you might want to do based on my experience. Depending on the age of the child(ren) you probably want to get someone to watch them at their house so that everything is more accessible like baby formula, diapers, bottles but I disagree with the notion of having someone stay at your house with your kids because it's a bit harder on the kids if you are gone that long. If you are going to have your kids stay at someone's house you better know that person darn well. Kids are a bit more resiliant than people realize so taking them out of their environment, their home, while the parents are away isn't a bad thing to do because kids know the different environments they are at and have visited before and when a kid is in his home environment where the parents are absent for let's say 4 days, a child will know that you aren't there and will WAIT for you when you normally come home.
Let me give you an example of that (that is something that happened to me): One summer when I was 12 I did babysitting and one lady I babysat for had 3 kids, ages 8, 5, and an 18 month old. she was in the middle of a seperation with her husband so he wasn't there and she was a major partier she is one of those parents who loves their kids but doesn't really want the responsibility of them. I ended up staying there for a month (with constant contact of my mother) taking care of her kids while she partied, everytime I tried her phone it was too loud of a background to understand her and I know she came home at nights when people were asleep because there was a note and money left for food or items the kids needed. So for one month I took care of her kids but everynight the kids would ask where mommy is and the 18 month old would wait by the door and would say mama which signified to me that he was waiting for her. And everytime I would take them to my house for the day with all the appropriate things they needed (because I lived just down the street) they would seem to forget that mommy wasn't there and she doesn't return to this place.
So I think it is a good thing to leave your kid with your family or the person you really really know and trust if you are going to be gone for so long because if they are at someone elses house, although at first it will take some getting used to, they aren't counting the days so to speak. Kids remember things you don't want them to and to a kid, if they remember their mommy and daddy not being their for so long they will grow up thinking that mommy and daddy don't care about me. Always explain things to your kids even when they are at those ages that you think they don't understand. I myself grew up having a seperation anxiety because my dad always had to leave on business trips and was in the army for the first few years of my life. Even though mom was there it was still very hard. It's always good to create another safe place for your child for times when you are gone that way when you are back they know that they have another place to turn to. So that's just my thoughts and advice for this subject hopefully you found it useful. If you have some other options or ideas on this subject then please leave comments I would love to hear them.
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Sorry
Sorry that I haven't been posting anything for a while, I've been sick with Mersa and it's not leaving my system. According to the doctors this is actually my second time having Mersa because of the strong strain it was and the anti-bodies in my body that only show up if it's fighting something so I get to be on quarantine for a while still. I will break that because I know as long as I keep it covered, sanitize my hands, and sanitize things I touch that I won't spread it while my body is still fighting it off. Because I am sorry but there is no way I am missing my nephews birthday party for an illness that I know I can kick in the butt. Most people I have talked to already about it have said, "well aren't you endangering your nephews?" Not really because they say it's inactive as far as contagiousness goes but i'm on quarantine since they think it might not be since it's my 2nd time having it or something like that. My nephew will pitch a fit if I'm not there and he actually has been throwing tantrums because I am not at my sister's house now so I know it will be a relief for him to see me and what not.
Saturday, February 14, 2009
News Flash
I am putting a bit of a spin on things. To make this blog post more interesting I am going to do it like a news report and be sure to watch for my catch phrase which is NEWS FLASH!! I know pretty common but yeah. The segment is called "A Little Thing About Friendship."
OK so this is how I view things when it comes to friendship. I guess you can call me old-fashioned or what not. I am bringing this topic up because this is what my brother and sister never see in the people they hang around and they should. It's called standing up for yourself, don't ever feel that the only friends you can ever have are people like this.
So let's begin on what not to look for in friends, here are some example of people you shouldn't hang out with:
Number 1: If your "friend(s)" come over to "hang out" and all he/she does is use your stuff (i.e. phone, computer, etc...) and eat your food then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!!! They are just using you for the stuff you have. That's not friendship, that's a little something called using people. Don't fall for it.
Number 2: If your "friend(s)" come over even when you told them not to because you are sick just because they want to play video games or something, then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! If they are your friends, the only reason they should be visiting you when you are sick is to visit and see how you are doing, not to play games and have total disregard to your health.
Number 3: If your "friend(s)" call you over to hang out and they tell you that you cannot come over unless you bring something (i.e. I pod, camera, food, anything really, etc...) then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! Kids these days are so dispicable, using friendship as a poy to get things. How unforgivable!
Number 4: If your "friend(s)" call you over to "hang out" and all they do it call you names, pick on you, and bully you then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! Don't ever let someone look down on your or pretend to be your friend so that they have someone to make miserable. If that someone is you, then I suggest you get out of that friendship immediately. It's not worth the mental, physical, and emotional strain. Not to mention that probable cause of being traumatized by it [there are proven cases ya' know].
Number 5: Be patient, this one is a bit of a long one but it deserves lots and lots of explaining. If your "friend(s)" have no regard for the other people living in the house or your family such as: Calling non-stop to heckle you to see if they can come over after someone says you are not feeling well or such and no company is allowed, or trespassing into someones' backyard to knock on your window to wake you up just so they can "hang out," or opening someones garage without permission and coming inside as if they live there, then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! It's one thing for you to not like your family and or the other people living in your house, but it's not ok for your friends to have total disregard for their existence. Families and/or people living in the same house are bound to have problems, that's just how it is sometimes, but for someone who doesn't think about caring about being considerate just because you are having a fight with them or something. That's not right. If they call more than once after someone tells them you are asleep or sick, then THEY should respect that. It's called common courtesy!! It is sure as H-E-double hockey sticks NOT OK to go into someone's backyard just to knock on a window to wake them up. For one, it's called trespassing, even if you have permission by that one person, if you aren't given permission by the person in charge of the house, you are in serious trouble, and two, how RUDE!! If you are waking them up because they will be late for school then by all means knock away on that window until they wake up. However, if you are just doing it to hang out then GO AWAY!! Never give out your personal garage code to your friends, whether you trust them or not!! I didn't even give my code out to my most trusted friend when I had to go with my family and our dog couldn't come. I gave her a house key and it was a non-duplicable(sp?) key that she was to return to me when I came home. I also left a list of rules to follow and my neighbors also made sure that she wasn't misusing the key to her advantage, like using our house to throw a party or something. A garage code is an easier way to access someones house and if the friend you tell is a blabber mouth and the wrong person gets the code then you are SCREWED...BIG TIME!!
Number 6: If your "friend(s)" are just using you to have a place to come to when they are locked out of their house for whatever reason it may be then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! I don't mind helping out a friend if they get locked out but if that's their only reason for having you as a friend then you best get a new friend. I am sorry, I love my friends to death but it's not my responsibility to look after you if and when you get locked out of your house. Of course I don't mind helping occassionally but if it's a constant then NO!! Make arrangements and if you are locked out because you lose your key then have a spare laying around under a plant or something or everyone I know who lost their keys always let someone they can trust have a spare key to hold for them or you can stay at a neighbors house. My sister always left her window unlocked [she had no screen and her window was protected very heavily].
Well I think I have covered all the bases that I wanted to and if not then I will update it. So that's it for News Flash!! Hope you found it enjoyable and the information useful. Keep tuned in for any new segments that will appear. If you have any questions or would like to add something please feel free to leave a comment or email me. Thanks for reading my Advice Column and this segment of News Flash!!
OK so this is how I view things when it comes to friendship. I guess you can call me old-fashioned or what not. I am bringing this topic up because this is what my brother and sister never see in the people they hang around and they should. It's called standing up for yourself, don't ever feel that the only friends you can ever have are people like this.
So let's begin on what not to look for in friends, here are some example of people you shouldn't hang out with:
Number 1: If your "friend(s)" come over to "hang out" and all he/she does is use your stuff (i.e. phone, computer, etc...) and eat your food then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!!! They are just using you for the stuff you have. That's not friendship, that's a little something called using people. Don't fall for it.
Number 2: If your "friend(s)" come over even when you told them not to because you are sick just because they want to play video games or something, then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! If they are your friends, the only reason they should be visiting you when you are sick is to visit and see how you are doing, not to play games and have total disregard to your health.
Number 3: If your "friend(s)" call you over to hang out and they tell you that you cannot come over unless you bring something (i.e. I pod, camera, food, anything really, etc...) then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! Kids these days are so dispicable, using friendship as a poy to get things. How unforgivable!
Number 4: If your "friend(s)" call you over to "hang out" and all they do it call you names, pick on you, and bully you then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! Don't ever let someone look down on your or pretend to be your friend so that they have someone to make miserable. If that someone is you, then I suggest you get out of that friendship immediately. It's not worth the mental, physical, and emotional strain. Not to mention that probable cause of being traumatized by it [there are proven cases ya' know].
Number 5: Be patient, this one is a bit of a long one but it deserves lots and lots of explaining. If your "friend(s)" have no regard for the other people living in the house or your family such as: Calling non-stop to heckle you to see if they can come over after someone says you are not feeling well or such and no company is allowed, or trespassing into someones' backyard to knock on your window to wake you up just so they can "hang out," or opening someones garage without permission and coming inside as if they live there, then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! It's one thing for you to not like your family and or the other people living in your house, but it's not ok for your friends to have total disregard for their existence. Families and/or people living in the same house are bound to have problems, that's just how it is sometimes, but for someone who doesn't think about caring about being considerate just because you are having a fight with them or something. That's not right. If they call more than once after someone tells them you are asleep or sick, then THEY should respect that. It's called common courtesy!! It is sure as H-E-double hockey sticks NOT OK to go into someone's backyard just to knock on a window to wake them up. For one, it's called trespassing, even if you have permission by that one person, if you aren't given permission by the person in charge of the house, you are in serious trouble, and two, how RUDE!! If you are waking them up because they will be late for school then by all means knock away on that window until they wake up. However, if you are just doing it to hang out then GO AWAY!! Never give out your personal garage code to your friends, whether you trust them or not!! I didn't even give my code out to my most trusted friend when I had to go with my family and our dog couldn't come. I gave her a house key and it was a non-duplicable(sp?) key that she was to return to me when I came home. I also left a list of rules to follow and my neighbors also made sure that she wasn't misusing the key to her advantage, like using our house to throw a party or something. A garage code is an easier way to access someones house and if the friend you tell is a blabber mouth and the wrong person gets the code then you are SCREWED...BIG TIME!!
Number 6: If your "friend(s)" are just using you to have a place to come to when they are locked out of their house for whatever reason it may be then News Flash!! THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS!! I don't mind helping out a friend if they get locked out but if that's their only reason for having you as a friend then you best get a new friend. I am sorry, I love my friends to death but it's not my responsibility to look after you if and when you get locked out of your house. Of course I don't mind helping occassionally but if it's a constant then NO!! Make arrangements and if you are locked out because you lose your key then have a spare laying around under a plant or something or everyone I know who lost their keys always let someone they can trust have a spare key to hold for them or you can stay at a neighbors house. My sister always left her window unlocked [she had no screen and her window was protected very heavily].
Well I think I have covered all the bases that I wanted to and if not then I will update it. So that's it for News Flash!! Hope you found it enjoyable and the information useful. Keep tuned in for any new segments that will appear. If you have any questions or would like to add something please feel free to leave a comment or email me. Thanks for reading my Advice Column and this segment of News Flash!!
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Heroes
Question:
Who are the heroes in your life? I want to hear more about how people became the person they are today and one good way of doing that is by asking who their hero and/or heroes are. Not only is it a good chance to think and reflect on who has helped you the most but it gives you a chance to become more aware of their existence and be grateful towards them
My Hero(es):
Let me note that this blog is written how I normally would write things granted the time allotted and other circumstances involved. If you have read any of my earlier posts, you will indeed notice the difference in my writing styles. Just wanted to make that known before my post was read, since I know some people are continuous readers of my blog.
There are many people who can be called heroes in this world, but for one to call another that on a personal level is due to their views. Most people choose their parents are their heroes simply because they are their parents and without them, they wouldn't have life. That is fine and dandy, but to me, that does not make a hero. People who I encounter in my life can be heroes in their own sense. Each has come into my life at the right time, the right moment, to give me guidance, support, and to point me in the right direction without making me be something I am not. Whether I choose to listen or follow it is a different story. To me, a hero does not have to be strong in the traditional sense. There are various forms of strength: spiritual, emotional, physical. To judge if someone is a hero based on strength alone is foolish. Some of my heroes may not be strong, but what they lack in strength, they make up in other areas such as wisdom and talent.
If I were to choose who my biggest hero is, I honestly cannot do it. Rather, the people I look up to the most because they are one of my heroes and they are there for me more often would have to be my three most precious people in the world who have made me the person I am today. I am following suit with others here in choosing my parents but not solely because they gave life to me. Countless times they have shown me strength, wisdom, and talent; although not in the normal way a parent would. My Dad, through his faults, taught me endurance, acceptance, change, and deceitfulness. My Mom, in her strength, showed me loyalty, creativeness, being open minded, and kindness. Both of them showed me love but of course as with any parent or in fact, with any individual, they did it in their own unique ways. My third most important person is someone I spent numerous hours with; in fact, when we were younger we were practically inseparable. My Cousin David would have to be my most precious person above even my parents. I am embarrassed to admit but my childhood was quite rocky compared to other children my age. It is thanks to my experiences from that and how my parents handled it and such that I learned from them and grew. How this pertains to my cousin is because he was the person there for me the most. When I was sad he could make me smile and when I was hurt he would know just what to say to make my day better. We were best friends and our bond was deeper than most others. It's like we could sense each other's happiness or sadness and what not. Unfortunately, he is no longer here by my side or anyone elses for that matter. In his life, he protected me, showed me safety, friendship, understanding, and that family is the MOST important thing anyone can have no matter what. With his death, he showed me that not all is what it seems, that life itself is fickle and to not take anything for granted, and that even when one is gone physically, they are not truly gone. Your memories of them, experiences with them, a bond; those can never be taken away from you.
My heroes may not be superheroes or always make the best choices. They have their faults, their bad times and their good times. That is more real and more important to me than strength showed by physical appearance or whatever else tradition dictates as strength. That is why my heroes are so close to my heart. They are pretty much just normal people who surround me in my everyday life. Whether it is a once in a lifetime meeting or a bond that lasts eternity, they are my heroes. The best part about them is that they each have taught me something and have let me learn both from my own experience and theirs. They have let me grow and expand in my own way and not a mold that needs to be filled perfectly. My heroes are my heroes because they made me, me. I am glad to have met the people I have in any situation I have encountered. If given the chance to change something in my life or to live again in a different way, I would say no because my heroes have shown me that there will always be good times and there will always be bad times. Sometimes it is balanced and other times it is not, but as each day passes you grow from your experiences and encounters that occur. I am grateful to have heroes in everyone I meet and most importantly in the people I cherish the most.
Who are the heroes in your life? I want to hear more about how people became the person they are today and one good way of doing that is by asking who their hero and/or heroes are. Not only is it a good chance to think and reflect on who has helped you the most but it gives you a chance to become more aware of their existence and be grateful towards them
My Hero(es):
Let me note that this blog is written how I normally would write things granted the time allotted and other circumstances involved. If you have read any of my earlier posts, you will indeed notice the difference in my writing styles. Just wanted to make that known before my post was read, since I know some people are continuous readers of my blog.
There are many people who can be called heroes in this world, but for one to call another that on a personal level is due to their views. Most people choose their parents are their heroes simply because they are their parents and without them, they wouldn't have life. That is fine and dandy, but to me, that does not make a hero. People who I encounter in my life can be heroes in their own sense. Each has come into my life at the right time, the right moment, to give me guidance, support, and to point me in the right direction without making me be something I am not. Whether I choose to listen or follow it is a different story. To me, a hero does not have to be strong in the traditional sense. There are various forms of strength: spiritual, emotional, physical. To judge if someone is a hero based on strength alone is foolish. Some of my heroes may not be strong, but what they lack in strength, they make up in other areas such as wisdom and talent.
If I were to choose who my biggest hero is, I honestly cannot do it. Rather, the people I look up to the most because they are one of my heroes and they are there for me more often would have to be my three most precious people in the world who have made me the person I am today. I am following suit with others here in choosing my parents but not solely because they gave life to me. Countless times they have shown me strength, wisdom, and talent; although not in the normal way a parent would. My Dad, through his faults, taught me endurance, acceptance, change, and deceitfulness. My Mom, in her strength, showed me loyalty, creativeness, being open minded, and kindness. Both of them showed me love but of course as with any parent or in fact, with any individual, they did it in their own unique ways. My third most important person is someone I spent numerous hours with; in fact, when we were younger we were practically inseparable. My Cousin David would have to be my most precious person above even my parents. I am embarrassed to admit but my childhood was quite rocky compared to other children my age. It is thanks to my experiences from that and how my parents handled it and such that I learned from them and grew. How this pertains to my cousin is because he was the person there for me the most. When I was sad he could make me smile and when I was hurt he would know just what to say to make my day better. We were best friends and our bond was deeper than most others. It's like we could sense each other's happiness or sadness and what not. Unfortunately, he is no longer here by my side or anyone elses for that matter. In his life, he protected me, showed me safety, friendship, understanding, and that family is the MOST important thing anyone can have no matter what. With his death, he showed me that not all is what it seems, that life itself is fickle and to not take anything for granted, and that even when one is gone physically, they are not truly gone. Your memories of them, experiences with them, a bond; those can never be taken away from you.
My heroes may not be superheroes or always make the best choices. They have their faults, their bad times and their good times. That is more real and more important to me than strength showed by physical appearance or whatever else tradition dictates as strength. That is why my heroes are so close to my heart. They are pretty much just normal people who surround me in my everyday life. Whether it is a once in a lifetime meeting or a bond that lasts eternity, they are my heroes. The best part about them is that they each have taught me something and have let me learn both from my own experience and theirs. They have let me grow and expand in my own way and not a mold that needs to be filled perfectly. My heroes are my heroes because they made me, me. I am glad to have met the people I have in any situation I have encountered. If given the chance to change something in my life or to live again in a different way, I would say no because my heroes have shown me that there will always be good times and there will always be bad times. Sometimes it is balanced and other times it is not, but as each day passes you grow from your experiences and encounters that occur. I am grateful to have heroes in everyone I meet and most importantly in the people I cherish the most.
Friday, February 6, 2009
Relieving Stress.
Question:
How are some ways you can relieve your stress?
Suggestions:
For every person, relieving stress is different. Different situations for different individuals cause varying levels of emotional and sometimes physical stress/strain. Not only that but some situations make your body so strained or stress that sometimes it's hard to part yourself from that situation at hand (i.e. verbal arguing/attacking); but that usually is the cause of adrenaline and the superiority complex (where one has to be the domineering and won't admit defeat).
Some common ways of relieving stress:
1) NEVER USE DRUGS, ALCOHOL, SEX, OR SELF MUTILATION TO RELIEVE STRESS. THIS WILL CAUSE MORE NEGATIVE OUTCOMES THAN POSITIVE, IF NOT NOW THEN IN THE LONG RUN.
2) Going for a walk
3) Reading a book
4) Taking a long bath/shower/bubble bath
5) Punching something...Preferably a punching bag but if you don't have one then punch pillows or a bed. Restrain from physical attacks on other people or hard surfaces such as walls and tables, and especially restrain from physical attacks against out animal friends
6) Writing...In a diary or just on a piece of paper.
7) Crying...Sometimes it's unavoidable but afterwords you feel better.
You might have other ways of dealing with stress that help you and could help others so feel free to leave comments about how you relieve stress. it might just help someone.
I have different ways of relieving stress for different situations I encounter such as: fights with friends compared to fights with family or getting bad tests scores compared to incompetency at work. Some ways I relieve stress that you can find useful (and yes I will explain each one in detail):
1) When stress occurs when I am at my mom's house (since my parents are divorced), something I do is called "the burning away of stress and pain." My mom has a fireplace at her house and don't worry I don't do anything to me or anyone else. All I do it write what's making me so stressed or strung out then we do like a little ritual and burn the paper with all that stress and it usually makes me feel better, it's literally like I am burning that stress and pain away so that's why I called it "the burning away of stress and pain."
2) My dad lives practically out in the middle of nowhere and he always has wood that needs to be chopped, when I am really angry and feel like pounding or splitting something I go outback to split and chop the logs he has to get my stress to go away. He leaves me wood on purpose because he knows that I do it to relieve stress instead of going and hurting the person that's making me angry or attacking someone who's not related to the problem in any way. Plus he uses the wood when we go camping or he starts a bonfire.
3) I personally love to take bubble baths, this usually only works for me if I am trying to relieve like a bad day at work
4) I have a pretty overruling brother and I try to avoid fights with him, but as we all know with siblings, sometimes it's just not possible. When we get in fights and I know I need to cool down and think rationally about it I pull myself from the fight and walk off my steam and cool down.
5) When I can't do any of the above I resort to reading or on rarer occasions, punching the heck out of my pillow.
6) But sometimes all you need to do is have yourself a good long cry. I know I do, I admit that I do. I am only human after all. There's something to crying that when it's done you just feel better, even if only a little.
I always tell people to turn your negative energy and thoughts into positive energy, thoughts, and actions. It's pretty hard to do but it's my believe that if you force yourself to do it, that after repitition it will become a habit and you will be able to do it unconciously. This could prove very useful in the future. Stay safe and relax when you can. Let the little things slide and worry about the big stuff.
How are some ways you can relieve your stress?
Suggestions:
For every person, relieving stress is different. Different situations for different individuals cause varying levels of emotional and sometimes physical stress/strain. Not only that but some situations make your body so strained or stress that sometimes it's hard to part yourself from that situation at hand (i.e. verbal arguing/attacking); but that usually is the cause of adrenaline and the superiority complex (where one has to be the domineering and won't admit defeat).
Some common ways of relieving stress:
1) NEVER USE DRUGS, ALCOHOL, SEX, OR SELF MUTILATION TO RELIEVE STRESS. THIS WILL CAUSE MORE NEGATIVE OUTCOMES THAN POSITIVE, IF NOT NOW THEN IN THE LONG RUN.
2) Going for a walk
3) Reading a book
4) Taking a long bath/shower/bubble bath
5) Punching something...Preferably a punching bag but if you don't have one then punch pillows or a bed. Restrain from physical attacks on other people or hard surfaces such as walls and tables, and especially restrain from physical attacks against out animal friends
6) Writing...In a diary or just on a piece of paper.
7) Crying...Sometimes it's unavoidable but afterwords you feel better.
You might have other ways of dealing with stress that help you and could help others so feel free to leave comments about how you relieve stress. it might just help someone.
I have different ways of relieving stress for different situations I encounter such as: fights with friends compared to fights with family or getting bad tests scores compared to incompetency at work. Some ways I relieve stress that you can find useful (and yes I will explain each one in detail):
1) When stress occurs when I am at my mom's house (since my parents are divorced), something I do is called "the burning away of stress and pain." My mom has a fireplace at her house and don't worry I don't do anything to me or anyone else. All I do it write what's making me so stressed or strung out then we do like a little ritual and burn the paper with all that stress and it usually makes me feel better, it's literally like I am burning that stress and pain away so that's why I called it "the burning away of stress and pain."
2) My dad lives practically out in the middle of nowhere and he always has wood that needs to be chopped, when I am really angry and feel like pounding or splitting something I go outback to split and chop the logs he has to get my stress to go away. He leaves me wood on purpose because he knows that I do it to relieve stress instead of going and hurting the person that's making me angry or attacking someone who's not related to the problem in any way. Plus he uses the wood when we go camping or he starts a bonfire.
3) I personally love to take bubble baths, this usually only works for me if I am trying to relieve like a bad day at work
4) I have a pretty overruling brother and I try to avoid fights with him, but as we all know with siblings, sometimes it's just not possible. When we get in fights and I know I need to cool down and think rationally about it I pull myself from the fight and walk off my steam and cool down.
5) When I can't do any of the above I resort to reading or on rarer occasions, punching the heck out of my pillow.
6) But sometimes all you need to do is have yourself a good long cry. I know I do, I admit that I do. I am only human after all. There's something to crying that when it's done you just feel better, even if only a little.
I always tell people to turn your negative energy and thoughts into positive energy, thoughts, and actions. It's pretty hard to do but it's my believe that if you force yourself to do it, that after repitition it will become a habit and you will be able to do it unconciously. This could prove very useful in the future. Stay safe and relax when you can. Let the little things slide and worry about the big stuff.
Monday, February 2, 2009
What Happened to Decency and Respect??
What happened to decency and respect in today's world? It's not just adults, but teens, and even worse kids and soon to be toddlers and infants are becoming less in clothing and more in dirty demeanor's. It's horrible how skimpy these clothes keep getting and how flaunting everyone has become. I don't have a problem if you are showing some skin but please I don't want to see your underwear, your boobs(tanks and v-necks are find I am talking about these things hanging out like there's nothing even covering them), your butt, or whatever else you have going on here. This pertains to guys too, with those baggy pants that you complain about but yet wear. It's crazy how short and skimpy these clothes are for girls, especially kids. Yea skirts are cute on little girls but there should be a length limit but obviously clothing companies don't care so long as they are making money. They aren't going to say yeah we were wrong for advertising this for young kids when it's clearly not suitable for them but we aren't the parents. And parents, come on, teach your kids respect for themselves and even if they hate you for stepping in, oh well, it will be loads better then someone finding them alluring and taking them and what not because of how they were dressed.
What's sad is that most females who are flaunting what they say they are so proud of is really a low self-esteem issue and a cry for attention. Honestly girls, don't reduce yourself to such a level, especially don't post them on your myspaces' and what not. It's annoying listening to my friends who have pictures up on their myspaces' of them wearing nothing but their bathing suits doing sexy poses and they are complaining because they are getting harassing emails from people they don't know just wanting to get it on with them and stuff. Well Duh! I mean yeah most guys shouldn't just look and say hey I want to tap that or whatever the lingo is but what do you expect to happen when you are basically taunting and teasing guys with stuff like that. You don't want to be demeaned or looked at like that yet you dress and act like that. It's crazy.
Yeah it's tough to listen to people's OPINIONS of how you dress, but that's all it is..opinions and nothing more. Love yourself and respect yourself. You don't need to flaunt your body and wear skimpy clothing to get attention because I can guarantee you will end up getting more negative attention than positive attention, whether you are a down to earth girl or not. Wear clothes that show who you are but NOT what you are. Hold your head high and don't let people get you down because you want people to notice you for your personality and not your body. Trust me, it's far more rewarding this way. I know from experience. I dress conservatively, yeah I wear a dress now and again but mainly it's jeans or shorts(of an appropriate length), and shirts that are cute and stylish but don't have things popping out of nowhere (not that I really have anything to pop out of my shirts but none the less I am proud of my size [totally different subject but yeah]).
Personal Experience:
I have a shirt that's my favorite shirt in the world. It looks like a dress from little house on the prairie but shorter (it's a shirt after all); with it's floral pattern and it's beige background, poofy sleeves, fabric to the neck, lace lining and a bow on the back. But I just love it to death. I would wear this shirt to school all the time and I would always hear people making fun of me saying things like, "hey grandma, why don't you go back to the farm," and stuff like that. I didn't listen and guess what, I had and still have, more TRUE friends then those who were counted as popular or those who would wear skimpy clothes for attention. There's something I would say to my friends when they didn't believe me. it's a short story but sit and read it'll be worth your while. Who knows, maybe you have read or heard it before. it contains the direct opposite in people so to simplify someone popular and someone normal.
A popular girl gets all dressed up in a short short skirt(i guess that's why they call it a mini), an oh so flattering top that reveals a bit much, some strapping heels and all the right accessories to accentuate her features just flawlessly. She is getting all dressed up to go out on a night of perusing for men at the local bar. The only problem is that she has a low self-esteem, that's why she's dressing up so flaunty. When she gets to the bar and she walks in, she notices that she only attracts few attractive men, some mildly attractive men and a lot of not so attractive men. All of them with cheesy pickup lines and them wanting to buy her a drink hoping that it will lead somewhere. Well, later that night an average girl gets dressed up in some jeans, a stylish top but conservative, with heels and some accessories and little makeup. She is also on a night out perusing for men and she goes to the same bar as the popular girl. When she walks in, she draws the attention of lots of men, mainly attractive men, some mildly attractive men, and few not so attractive men. The popular girl is looking at the average girl not undesrtanding why she is getting not only more men but also more attractive men when she put in so much effort into her looks. The difference is that the average girl has a high self-esteem about herself compared to the popular girl. That's why guys flocked to her, for her personality that shone through and not her looks. Of crouse if you are in a bar looking for guys, no matter if you have a high self-esteem or not and no matter what you are wearing, there will always be some guys trying to get lucky. That's a given.
Just remeber, it's what our parents always tell us: "It's what's on the inside that counts, not the outside."
What's sad is that most females who are flaunting what they say they are so proud of is really a low self-esteem issue and a cry for attention. Honestly girls, don't reduce yourself to such a level, especially don't post them on your myspaces' and what not. It's annoying listening to my friends who have pictures up on their myspaces' of them wearing nothing but their bathing suits doing sexy poses and they are complaining because they are getting harassing emails from people they don't know just wanting to get it on with them and stuff. Well Duh! I mean yeah most guys shouldn't just look and say hey I want to tap that or whatever the lingo is but what do you expect to happen when you are basically taunting and teasing guys with stuff like that. You don't want to be demeaned or looked at like that yet you dress and act like that. It's crazy.
Yeah it's tough to listen to people's OPINIONS of how you dress, but that's all it is..opinions and nothing more. Love yourself and respect yourself. You don't need to flaunt your body and wear skimpy clothing to get attention because I can guarantee you will end up getting more negative attention than positive attention, whether you are a down to earth girl or not. Wear clothes that show who you are but NOT what you are. Hold your head high and don't let people get you down because you want people to notice you for your personality and not your body. Trust me, it's far more rewarding this way. I know from experience. I dress conservatively, yeah I wear a dress now and again but mainly it's jeans or shorts(of an appropriate length), and shirts that are cute and stylish but don't have things popping out of nowhere (not that I really have anything to pop out of my shirts but none the less I am proud of my size [totally different subject but yeah]).
Personal Experience:
I have a shirt that's my favorite shirt in the world. It looks like a dress from little house on the prairie but shorter (it's a shirt after all); with it's floral pattern and it's beige background, poofy sleeves, fabric to the neck, lace lining and a bow on the back. But I just love it to death. I would wear this shirt to school all the time and I would always hear people making fun of me saying things like, "hey grandma, why don't you go back to the farm," and stuff like that. I didn't listen and guess what, I had and still have, more TRUE friends then those who were counted as popular or those who would wear skimpy clothes for attention. There's something I would say to my friends when they didn't believe me. it's a short story but sit and read it'll be worth your while. Who knows, maybe you have read or heard it before. it contains the direct opposite in people so to simplify someone popular and someone normal.
A popular girl gets all dressed up in a short short skirt(i guess that's why they call it a mini), an oh so flattering top that reveals a bit much, some strapping heels and all the right accessories to accentuate her features just flawlessly. She is getting all dressed up to go out on a night of perusing for men at the local bar. The only problem is that she has a low self-esteem, that's why she's dressing up so flaunty. When she gets to the bar and she walks in, she notices that she only attracts few attractive men, some mildly attractive men and a lot of not so attractive men. All of them with cheesy pickup lines and them wanting to buy her a drink hoping that it will lead somewhere. Well, later that night an average girl gets dressed up in some jeans, a stylish top but conservative, with heels and some accessories and little makeup. She is also on a night out perusing for men and she goes to the same bar as the popular girl. When she walks in, she draws the attention of lots of men, mainly attractive men, some mildly attractive men, and few not so attractive men. The popular girl is looking at the average girl not undesrtanding why she is getting not only more men but also more attractive men when she put in so much effort into her looks. The difference is that the average girl has a high self-esteem about herself compared to the popular girl. That's why guys flocked to her, for her personality that shone through and not her looks. Of crouse if you are in a bar looking for guys, no matter if you have a high self-esteem or not and no matter what you are wearing, there will always be some guys trying to get lucky. That's a given.
Just remeber, it's what our parents always tell us: "It's what's on the inside that counts, not the outside."
Monday, January 26, 2009
Family Issues
Question:[self-analysis]
I am at a loss here, I suspect my sister's fiance` is cheating on her and possibly abusing her. I am worried for her and my two nephews because this man has a history of outbursts and anger issues. I do not want my sister or my nephews being hurt or worse, killed; what should I do?
Suggestions:
There is no exact answer to this because there are too many factors to take into account. One of the things to worry about is that the person who is being cheated on and/or abused, do not themselves want to accept or change what's going on out of fear or just plain denial/disbelief, than there is really nothing you can do. People don't take that into account when they see someone, say a child, being abused by an adult that if police are called in to stop this person and the police cannot find enough evidence than the adult will have to be set free of any charges but will be on a watch list so to speak, and often times the child is in a worse predicament because of this. I would tell her how you feel and what you think. She might get angry she might not. I know she did the first time I told her what I felt but that's to be expected. She is not the type to ask for help or show that she can't handle things. It may also have something to do with how I said things. It's currently a really difficult situation because there's just too much complication involved with the children. Both of them have different fathers and both have parental rights. She gets h-e-double hockey sticks from both the father's parents but she is a good mother. And if anyone dares to say she is loose or a slut then I will have to strongly disagree with you. I truly believe, since she was with them individually for a long time that after a while she believed they loved her whole-hearted and that it would last between them. Unfortunately it didn't but that doesn't mean that each child isn't a blessing and to all you who think that abortion is the best way. YOU ARE DEAD WRONG!!
If you choose to have sex then you must accept the consequences, a baby is a consequence therefore it becomes YOUR responsibility and NO ONE elses! If adopting out is the only way then make sure a family member adopts it. Family should be with family not with strangers. There are only few instances that I believe a fetus should be aborted: in cases of rape, if the girl is too young and it will be a great risk for her to carry it to term, if you are having like sextuplets and there is a fatal risk of you losing most their lives and your own(a HUMAN body is simply not made to carry that many), and if a fetus is aborted after it has come to look like a baby(I believe that is like 4 or 5 weeks into term) then I am sorry but that is MURDER!! I don't care how cruel I sound, I am entitled to my beliefs.
I ended up ranting off the subject but that's ok, it gives a better understanding of the situation and where I stand as far as it goes. She might get mad at me for posting this on a public blog but it could end up helping another. For now I can't think of any other suggestions although I know there is more. Keep watching for updates. Thanks
I am at a loss here, I suspect my sister's fiance` is cheating on her and possibly abusing her. I am worried for her and my two nephews because this man has a history of outbursts and anger issues. I do not want my sister or my nephews being hurt or worse, killed; what should I do?
Suggestions:
There is no exact answer to this because there are too many factors to take into account. One of the things to worry about is that the person who is being cheated on and/or abused, do not themselves want to accept or change what's going on out of fear or just plain denial/disbelief, than there is really nothing you can do. People don't take that into account when they see someone, say a child, being abused by an adult that if police are called in to stop this person and the police cannot find enough evidence than the adult will have to be set free of any charges but will be on a watch list so to speak, and often times the child is in a worse predicament because of this. I would tell her how you feel and what you think. She might get angry she might not. I know she did the first time I told her what I felt but that's to be expected. She is not the type to ask for help or show that she can't handle things. It may also have something to do with how I said things. It's currently a really difficult situation because there's just too much complication involved with the children. Both of them have different fathers and both have parental rights. She gets h-e-double hockey sticks from both the father's parents but she is a good mother. And if anyone dares to say she is loose or a slut then I will have to strongly disagree with you. I truly believe, since she was with them individually for a long time that after a while she believed they loved her whole-hearted and that it would last between them. Unfortunately it didn't but that doesn't mean that each child isn't a blessing and to all you who think that abortion is the best way. YOU ARE DEAD WRONG!!
If you choose to have sex then you must accept the consequences, a baby is a consequence therefore it becomes YOUR responsibility and NO ONE elses! If adopting out is the only way then make sure a family member adopts it. Family should be with family not with strangers. There are only few instances that I believe a fetus should be aborted: in cases of rape, if the girl is too young and it will be a great risk for her to carry it to term, if you are having like sextuplets and there is a fatal risk of you losing most their lives and your own(a HUMAN body is simply not made to carry that many), and if a fetus is aborted after it has come to look like a baby(I believe that is like 4 or 5 weeks into term) then I am sorry but that is MURDER!! I don't care how cruel I sound, I am entitled to my beliefs.
I ended up ranting off the subject but that's ok, it gives a better understanding of the situation and where I stand as far as it goes. She might get mad at me for posting this on a public blog but it could end up helping another. For now I can't think of any other suggestions although I know there is more. Keep watching for updates. Thanks
Saturday, January 24, 2009
What's the point in giving up?
Well this one isn't so much an article as it is saying some stuff that is pretty true but yeah. I wrote it and if for anyreason you need to use it for anything, ask my permission first. Thanks!
I don't understand how people can just throw their lives away and kill themselves. I personally can never see life as that bad as to want to end it all. Maybe its because I put in my head that if I have no reason to live then I will prove I do or I will make a reason to live. People who do go through with it are in my view, just being selfish for not thinking of others and how they will feel or what harm they can do to another. Not to mention that many people who shoot themselves in the head to end it, usually don't die. Instead they become a vegetable for the rest of their life. For those people who choose to end it by jumping off of bridges-depending on the bridge and what it's over-they can seriously hurt someone. An example of that is people who jump off a a bridge that is over a roadway where people are currently driving; they can land on a car and hurt someone or cause another accident or they can end up killing someone. That is a blatent disregard for another person's life. I have experienced a death in my family due to suicide and you one) would never think that this particular person would ever do something like that and two) there is nothing that could be that bad!! Honestly! But this person, my family, was only 12 and I guess since with hormonal changes and increase of highschool drama now in middle and elementary schools that in his world, it was that bad. See I know how people can come to the conclusion that things are that bad but think towards the future and choose hope over death. Find someone to talk to, that tends to help ease the pain or lessen the drama one is experiencing at that time. Don't give it all up over something that when you are in heaven or heck, you will find to be completely stupid and pointless. Don't even waste the energy on thinking negative thoughts. Turn those thoughts into positives ones and if you find a reason for not living, say that you are homosexual and your parent who you are really close to until you tell them you are homosexual, after finding out says that they do not accept you and you are no longer part of the family because of it; don't kill yourself over it. Prove to them that you are, become an activist for gay rights or something positive that will not only can help you in your struggle but help others as well.
I don't understand how people can just throw their lives away and kill themselves. I personally can never see life as that bad as to want to end it all. Maybe its because I put in my head that if I have no reason to live then I will prove I do or I will make a reason to live. People who do go through with it are in my view, just being selfish for not thinking of others and how they will feel or what harm they can do to another. Not to mention that many people who shoot themselves in the head to end it, usually don't die. Instead they become a vegetable for the rest of their life. For those people who choose to end it by jumping off of bridges-depending on the bridge and what it's over-they can seriously hurt someone. An example of that is people who jump off a a bridge that is over a roadway where people are currently driving; they can land on a car and hurt someone or cause another accident or they can end up killing someone. That is a blatent disregard for another person's life. I have experienced a death in my family due to suicide and you one) would never think that this particular person would ever do something like that and two) there is nothing that could be that bad!! Honestly! But this person, my family, was only 12 and I guess since with hormonal changes and increase of highschool drama now in middle and elementary schools that in his world, it was that bad. See I know how people can come to the conclusion that things are that bad but think towards the future and choose hope over death. Find someone to talk to, that tends to help ease the pain or lessen the drama one is experiencing at that time. Don't give it all up over something that when you are in heaven or heck, you will find to be completely stupid and pointless. Don't even waste the energy on thinking negative thoughts. Turn those thoughts into positives ones and if you find a reason for not living, say that you are homosexual and your parent who you are really close to until you tell them you are homosexual, after finding out says that they do not accept you and you are no longer part of the family because of it; don't kill yourself over it. Prove to them that you are, become an activist for gay rights or something positive that will not only can help you in your struggle but help others as well.
Homelessness
I wrote this and if for whatever reason someone would like to use my material, please ask permission. That's not too hard to do and it's really easy to do.
In today's world it is hard to tell who is really a homeless person in need and who is just looking to make fast money the lazy way. What is this world coming to where people imitate homeless people because they are too lazy to get a real job and work an honest day's work? It's terrible to think that someone would stoop so low because then it negatively affects TRUE homeless people.
Since it's hard to tell, what is one to do? I personally do not give money to people. If someone asks me if I have money so they can buy food, I say I will not give you money; instead I will buy them some food. Depending on how much I am able to spend, I buy things that will go far like a loaf or two of bread, peanut butter, baby formula(if needed), and water because it's good to keep hydrated. In the off chance it's an adult asking so he/she can feed their children, I usually throw in a little treat like candy or something sweet that they can share because to a child living on a street, it makes them feel special. I have a couple of instances where either my mom or I have done (they are TRUE stories).
Instance 1:
When I was little, it would be my mom watching my sister, my brother, and me. In our front yard we had a palm tree and one day and homeless man came to the door asking if he can trim and cut our palm for some food. Now normally my mom might have taken him up on the offer except for the fact that we were around and she didn't know what the man was capable of, well that and it would be a liability if he got injured since it was kind of a tall palm tree. My mom declined nicely and said she would call a local shelter to come and pick him up (because some places do that) to take him back there where he can clean up and look for a job because if he is asking to trim our palm he is obviously more than able to work and can more than likely find a job, Not only that but a shelter will give him food to. So that's what my mom did. That man later on came back to our house and thanked my mom for giving him the kick in the butt he needed. Sometimes that's all it takes. People think it's heartless what my mom did but it really wasn't, it would be a different story though if it was a single mom with little children, then my mom would've hurried them inside but the man was more than capable of working and although a single mom is, if she has small children it's kind of hard...well it honestly doesn't sound that bad if it was being TOLD instead or being WRITTEN.
Instance 2:
This instance took place not too long ago. My mom and I were at a Circle K, filling up on gas and getting something to drink and for my mom, cigarettes. Well apparently a lady had 2 children with her and I think it was also her younger sister and a man there. What happened was, the man who was with them ran off with everything she had, her wallet and what not and she was heading to her mom's house because she was trying to escape that man but I guess his punishment to her was leaving her stranded. We overheard them and me being miss chitty chat-chat asked why the older lady was crying. Then that's when she told us the story. Even though my mom and I didn't have that much money, my mom and me put together some of our cash, filled up their truck which that man had taken their gas from and gave her $40 dollars for food and drinks on the way and my mom bought water for the two little girls since they were thirsty and the $40 would have to last because they were travelling a far distance. I know where they were going but for protection and paranoia reasons I will not state. Well they were truly grateful and asked for our address so she can repay us, because my mom's part of the money came from her cigarette money, and my mom said no. She told the woman that "it's what God would've done so there is no need to repay her." They left and the clerk at the register said you should've gotten an address to where they were going so you can get repaid and my mom said firmly to her, "no, that's not what God would've done. The biggest reward is knowing that you helped someone who is in need, that's the best type of payment there is."
I just love my mom and how she has taught me to be so kind. I also know from her, how to tell if someone is trying to scam you by pretending to be homeless. If they refuse food and say they want money, either makes them a pretender or a chronic alcoholic and/or gambler. People who are homeless are truly grateful for anything you can spare or give. You can see it in the way they act, and talk and the look in their eyes.
I feel bad for people who become homeless due to the economy and bad luck and people who have lost everything, but I do NOT feel bad for people who are homeless because of something they have done, like alcoholics, druggies, gamblers, etc... That's not to say that I won't help them depending on the situation and how much of a danger it may be for me to help them. However, I do believe that if you are able bodied enough to work then you should. Don't be lazy!
In today's world it is hard to tell who is really a homeless person in need and who is just looking to make fast money the lazy way. What is this world coming to where people imitate homeless people because they are too lazy to get a real job and work an honest day's work? It's terrible to think that someone would stoop so low because then it negatively affects TRUE homeless people.
Since it's hard to tell, what is one to do? I personally do not give money to people. If someone asks me if I have money so they can buy food, I say I will not give you money; instead I will buy them some food. Depending on how much I am able to spend, I buy things that will go far like a loaf or two of bread, peanut butter, baby formula(if needed), and water because it's good to keep hydrated. In the off chance it's an adult asking so he/she can feed their children, I usually throw in a little treat like candy or something sweet that they can share because to a child living on a street, it makes them feel special. I have a couple of instances where either my mom or I have done (they are TRUE stories).
Instance 1:
When I was little, it would be my mom watching my sister, my brother, and me. In our front yard we had a palm tree and one day and homeless man came to the door asking if he can trim and cut our palm for some food. Now normally my mom might have taken him up on the offer except for the fact that we were around and she didn't know what the man was capable of, well that and it would be a liability if he got injured since it was kind of a tall palm tree. My mom declined nicely and said she would call a local shelter to come and pick him up (because some places do that) to take him back there where he can clean up and look for a job because if he is asking to trim our palm he is obviously more than able to work and can more than likely find a job, Not only that but a shelter will give him food to. So that's what my mom did. That man later on came back to our house and thanked my mom for giving him the kick in the butt he needed. Sometimes that's all it takes. People think it's heartless what my mom did but it really wasn't, it would be a different story though if it was a single mom with little children, then my mom would've hurried them inside but the man was more than capable of working and although a single mom is, if she has small children it's kind of hard...well it honestly doesn't sound that bad if it was being TOLD instead or being WRITTEN.
Instance 2:
This instance took place not too long ago. My mom and I were at a Circle K, filling up on gas and getting something to drink and for my mom, cigarettes. Well apparently a lady had 2 children with her and I think it was also her younger sister and a man there. What happened was, the man who was with them ran off with everything she had, her wallet and what not and she was heading to her mom's house because she was trying to escape that man but I guess his punishment to her was leaving her stranded. We overheard them and me being miss chitty chat-chat asked why the older lady was crying. Then that's when she told us the story. Even though my mom and I didn't have that much money, my mom and me put together some of our cash, filled up their truck which that man had taken their gas from and gave her $40 dollars for food and drinks on the way and my mom bought water for the two little girls since they were thirsty and the $40 would have to last because they were travelling a far distance. I know where they were going but for protection and paranoia reasons I will not state. Well they were truly grateful and asked for our address so she can repay us, because my mom's part of the money came from her cigarette money, and my mom said no. She told the woman that "it's what God would've done so there is no need to repay her." They left and the clerk at the register said you should've gotten an address to where they were going so you can get repaid and my mom said firmly to her, "no, that's not what God would've done. The biggest reward is knowing that you helped someone who is in need, that's the best type of payment there is."
I just love my mom and how she has taught me to be so kind. I also know from her, how to tell if someone is trying to scam you by pretending to be homeless. If they refuse food and say they want money, either makes them a pretender or a chronic alcoholic and/or gambler. People who are homeless are truly grateful for anything you can spare or give. You can see it in the way they act, and talk and the look in their eyes.
I feel bad for people who become homeless due to the economy and bad luck and people who have lost everything, but I do NOT feel bad for people who are homeless because of something they have done, like alcoholics, druggies, gamblers, etc... That's not to say that I won't help them depending on the situation and how much of a danger it may be for me to help them. However, I do believe that if you are able bodied enough to work then you should. Don't be lazy!
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